2019 and Beyond: Why Can You Find Your Path to Golden Opportunities?
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2019 and beyond – Your Path to Golden Opportunities
Greetings and welcome! It’s great you can be here. My name is William Fern.
It is a new year and we are still in a fresh frame of mind, optimistic about the future and keen on a new start in the year and also in life.
Many resolutions and many plans are not kept or implemented because the passion to do so is often missing.
If it sometimes seems you do not have your future in your own hands perhaps I can help you a bit with a couple of ideas which you can employ right now.
These ideas have helped many to develop and move forward so that they can realise golden opportunities in their live and career.
1. Be curious and original – welcome change and novelty and them to your advantage.
“Change will lead to insight more often than insight will lead to change.”
― Milton Erickson
Think about how proactively creative this idea is! Repeat quote.
Many people are afraid of change because earlier attempts at change failed. Oddly, by keeping an eye on the past and refusing change can give people a perverse and twisted sense of security in that it makes their life more predictable – even when they are not happy with their life like it is! For this reason, they lack the passion, the creativity and congruence to act and implement changes they would like to make happen.
It is important to remain curious about new things and to believe there are more important things in life than your past because focusing on the future is what motivates people to do good things. Insisting on always reliving the past is an obstruction. A cul-de-sac. A no exit. Potential opportunities will never become golden ones if you do not look to the future. Pushing the barriers and achieving success is often just a matter of just tipping the first domino of change.
The thing I like most about the past is that it is in the past and that I have a whole new world to discover before me in the future.
It is not what we have that makes us happy. What makes us happy is raising and expanding our values and becoming someone new, someone better.
Clients often tell me they have problems and they cannot change anything. And I say, “Well, if you really cannot change then why are able to physically come here and tell me about your problems? There was a time, you know, when you were unable to walk or talk.”
The message here: your past does not have to determine your future.
In order to better cope with the past and lessen its negative influence it helps to establish an alternative map and re-programme past experiences and memories which seem to be holding you back. Often your map of the past is obsolete and out of sync with your present situation. Memories often distort the facts at best and some memories are of events that may never have even taken place!
To establish this alternative map the tool formulated by John Grinder and Richard Bandler might help. It is called Change Personal History.
Here is a brief summary of the four steps.
First of all, identify the problem state or undesirable situation – something which is holding you back. What exactly do you want to change?
Then, go back on your time line to when you think the problem first started – to the earliest memory of the experience. Anchor this negative experience. Perhaps by squeezing your left wrist or doing something similar. Then, holding the anchor, go to other similar situations on your time line when you had similar feelings so these can be anchored too.
Secondly, after you have done this come back to the present time on your time line and completely leave the negative feeling from the past. Play the observer: look back at yourself in the past situation from a dissociated, observer position. Recognise that you did the best you could at the time given the resources you then had.
Step completely into and associate with the present. Determine how many more resources you now have which could have helped you in the past negative situations and how much you have learnt since then and that your life situation is a lot different now. Create a new anchor for these necessary resources and knowledge - perhaps by playing a pleasant melody in your head or touching your right knee.
As a third step, return to the past situation and step into and become that person you used to be. Now however, you will have all of the resources and knowledge with you that you have acquired meanwhile. Identify which resources and knowledge that you now have would have helped you to achieve a more adequate solution in the past situation. Activate the resource anchor and offer advice and comfort to you the younger you.
Confirm that this new perception and understanding of the past situation have imparted important learning about the situation, and about your life. If you have difficulty in confirming this, then return to step 2 and anchor additional, more appropriate resources.
After having successfully completed this step, return to the present position on your timeline.
Finally, finish by projecting yourself into a similar challenging situation in the future and notice how your demeanour, reactions and body language have become more determined, more congruent, more in balance.
Many clients have told me that this new perspective on their past has helped them a great deal. Important: sometimes it might take a several days for the exercise to have the desired effect! So be a little patient.
It is also necessary to test the change by remembering the problem to determine if it is still causing negativity. If it is, then discover what additional resources are needed and repeat the exercise.
https://williamfern.com/en-podcasts/
2019 and beyond – Your Path to Golden Opportunities
Greetings and welcome! It’s great you can be here. My name is William Fern.
It is a new year and we are still in a fresh frame of mind, optimistic about the future and keen on a new start in the year and also in life.
Many resolutions and many plans are not kept or implemented because the passion to do so is often missing.
If it sometimes seems you do not have your future in your own hands perhaps I can help you a bit with a couple of ideas which you can employ right now.
These ideas have helped many to develop and move forward so that they can realise golden opportunities in their live and career.
1. Be curious and original – welcome change and novelty and them to your advantage.
“Change will lead to insight more often than insight will lead to change.”
― Milton Erickson
Think about how proactively creative this idea is! Repeat quote.
Many people are afraid of change because earlier attempts at change failed. Oddly, by keeping an eye on the past and refusing change can give people a perverse and twisted sense of security in that it makes their life more predictable – even when they are not happy with their life like it is! For this reason, they lack the passion, the creativity and congruence to act and implement changes they would like to make happen.
It is important to remain curious about new things and to believe there are more important things in life than your past because focusing on the future is what motivates people to do good things. Insisting on always reliving the past is an obstruction. A cul-de-sac. A no exit. Potential opportunities will never become golden ones if you do not look to the future. Pushing the barriers and achieving success is often just a matter of just tipping the first domino of change.
The thing I like most about the past is that it is in the past and that I have a whole new world to discover before me in the future.
It is not what we have that makes us happy. What makes us happy is raising and expanding our values and becoming someone new, someone better.
Clients often tell me they have problems and they cannot change anything. And I say, “Well, if you really cannot change then why are able to physically come here and tell me about your problems? There was a time, you know, when you were unable to walk or talk.”
The message here: your past does not have to determine your future.
In order to better cope with the past and lessen its negative influence it helps to establish an alternative map and re-programme past experiences and memories which seem to be holding you back. Often your map of the past is obsolete and out of sync with your present situation. Memories often distort the facts at best and some memories are of events that may never have even taken place!
To establish this alternative map the tool formulated by John Grinder and Richard Bandler might help. It is called Change Personal History.
Here is a brief summary of the four steps.
First of all, identify the problem state or undesirable situation – something which is holding you back. What exactly do you want to change?
Then, go back on your time line to when you think the problem first started – to the earliest memory of the experience. Anchor this negative experience. Perhaps by squeezing your left wrist or doing something similar. Then, holding the anchor, go to other similar situations on your time line when you had similar feelings so these can be anchored too.
Secondly, after you have done this come back to the present time on your time line and completely leave the negative feeling from the past. Play the observer: look back at yourself in the past situation from a dissociated, observer position. Recognise that you did the best you could at the time given the resources you then had.
Step completely into and associate with the present. Determine how many more resources you now have which could have helped you in the past negative situations and how much you have learnt since then and that your life situation is a lot different now. Create a new anchor for these necessary resources and knowledge - perhaps by playing a pleasant melody in your head or touching your right knee.
As a third step, return to the past situation and step into and become that person you used to be. Now however, you will have all of the resources and knowledge with you that you have acquired meanwhile. Identify which resources and knowledge that you now have would have helped you to achieve a more adequate solution in the past situation. Activate the resource anchor and offer advice and comfort to you the younger you.
Confirm that this new perception and understanding of the past situation have imparted important learning about the situation, and about your life. If you have difficulty in confirming this, then return to step 2 and anchor additional, more appropriate resources.
After having successfully completed this step, return to the present position on your timeline.
Finally, finish by projecting yourself into a similar challenging situation in the future and notice how your demeanour, reactions and body language have become more determined, more congruent, more in balance.
Many clients have told me that this new perspective on their past has helped them a great deal. Important: sometimes it might take a several days for the exercise to have the desired effect! So be a little patient.
It is also necessary to test the change by remembering the problem to determine if it is still causing negativity. If it is, then discover what additional resources are needed and repeat the exercise.